Tagged with human nature

Living in Interesting Times

Reality is subjective. I never used to think that. I mean, how can reality, something that one would assume can be empirically proved or disproved, be open to interpretation, conditioned on whether someone accepts it or doesn’t accept it? Then came social media, which does have some uses (hi fam) but is also a veritable, … Continue reading

The Courage to be Wrong

The Courage to be Wrong

I was bathing my five year old son over the weekend when he suddenly grabbed his leg with one hand and foot with the other, crying out that he had a cramp. I reacted immediately to do what I could to ease his pain, which in this case involved a combination of massage and Reiki. … Continue reading

Be Yourself

Be Yourself

One of the greatest challenges we face in our development is self-discovery, finding out who we are, being ourselves. We start off innocent children. Inevitably, we encounter people who want us to conform, beginning a power struggle that will follow us throughout our lives at home, school, church, peers, the workplace, etc. Socially, the world seems … Continue reading

My Feelings? I Thought they Were Yours.

My Feelings? I Thought they Were Yours.

It’s common for people to tell you how they feel about things – relationships, work, politics, brussel sprouts. But it’s actually the other way around – our feelings drive what w e think. For example, brussel sprouts have never actively sought to offend anyone, yet those who have bad feelings towards them (based on input from … Continue reading

Everybody’s Right

Everybody’s Right

One day when we were all rather bored in college, somebody came up with the idea of creating stories based on the cover of Cat Steven’s album “Tea for the Tillerman”. I don’t recall what those stories were, as we went around the room. I do recall that, after a quite detailed bit of fiction, … Continue reading

Garnish

Garnish

“I wouldn’t want to work with my wife in a place where there were a lot of knives”, I said. We all laughed –  myself and the Chinese couple working in the kitchen of their restaurant. We knew each other well, so we could joke like that. Plus this was a dream. The woman was … Continue reading

Be True to You

We all have a desire to love and be loved. We want to share our lives with someone, not live them alone. We want to have the kind of intimacy where someone thoroughly knows us deep down inside and we them.  Yet, in an effort to find that special someone, we often try to pretend … Continue reading

Putting the Editor on Notice

I have a little editor who lives in a cul de sac in my forehead, just off the main route between Crown Chakra and Third Eye Chakra. I know he lives there because sometimes I can feel him banging on the ceiling when he thinks I’m not paying enough attention to him. He spent the last … Continue reading

An Exercise in Selfless Futility

Disclaimer: I do not mean to imply that we should all be completely selfish, but I do think a bit of selfishness is a good thing, just as I believe that “selflessness” can actually be selfishness in disguise. Also, it might not work out the way you intended. In today’s anecdote, an attempt is made … Continue reading

A Few Thoughts on Selfishness

To a lot of people, selfishness is a four-letter word masquerading as an eleven-letter word. But the ability to be selfish, to think of yourself first, is an important part of having a happy, healthy life. I mean in moderation, of course. There is a delicate balance within a group dynamic (i.e. more than just … Continue reading