The Lovers is a card of strong emotion relating to our connection with others. It’s represents the passion of sexuality and the power of love. Either can be a driving force. Combined it can be life changing.
The lovers can also represent our personal beliefs and core values. I’m talking about the kind of values that are supported by an unshakable foundation supported by a twenty-foot concrete and metal sunken foundation. What are they? If you see this card come up and you don’t know the answer to that question, it might be time to think about it. How far would you go for someone or something important to you? Is there a line you wouldn’t cross?
It’s easy to go through life wafting through each other’s energy fields and picking up a common consensus of what is right, what is wrong, and what reality is, for example. And that’s fine. It’s nice to have a common frame of reference. It helps with communication. Ideally however, you would like to consider for yourself what those concepts mean to you, as opposed to having them be a reaction to or an alignment with what everyone else is doing.
The irony is that this card, with its emphasis on joining with another, is actually about developing one’s own individuality. And of course that makes perfect sense, because knowing yourself and what you stand for is a prerequisite for knowing what you want in a relationship and what kind of person would be a good fit. Otherwise you run the risk of being one of those people who take on their partner’s beliefs and values, at least superficially, which rarely works out and probably never should. Eventually you get to the point where you can’t keep pretending to be something you’re not, and bolt like Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride. Yes, I know it’s a RomCom. I can like RomComs.