Mommy Dearest

The Queen of Pentacles has the qualities of being big hearted, nurturing, resourceful, practical, generous, and well grounded.  She is perhaps the most motherly of all the queen cards.

When reversed, the Queen of Pentacles is someone who is motherly in ways that result in years of therapy for the children.  She is nurturing to the point of micromanagement, which can be stifling.  Children need to experiment, to explore, to make their own mistakes in order to learn, but good luck with that in this house. You will do things her way because that is the way they are done.

She is giving, but always expects something in return, such as being the person she wants you to be as opposed to being the person you are.  If you don’t give her what she wants you will know about it, and it will quite possibly be communicated through passive aggression with a side order of martyrdom.

The reversed Queen of Pentacles can be quite overbearing and domineering. This matriarch rules the roost. She may protest otherwise, but the proof is in the way nothing happens without her consent. If something does happen that she didn’t sign off on there will be trouble, even if it is a benign or even positive occurrence—it didn’t get official approval.

Spend enough time around this energy and you will be tempted to feel responsible for it, as though it is your fault she is behaving the way she does. If you would only act differently, say the right things, mind your manners, take out the trash without being asked, etc. then everything would change for the better. Sorry, it doesn’t work like that. Whether or not you’re exacerbating the situation, this card will remain upside down until the Queen of Pentacles takes responsibility for herself and her feelings, then acts accordingly. Only she has the power to turn this card right side up.