I’m surprised to find that Black Friday found its way to Ireland, especially considering the day prior to that is usually called Thursday and not Thanksgiving. Here, it is a marketing ploy that may or not bring in a few more shoppers. In the states, it seems to be a cataclysmic event on a scale somewhere between the running of the bulls and the zombie apocalypse. I’m aware that most of you reading this live there. I hope you’re all being very kind to yourselves today, and recovering well between major festive seasons.
The Six of Cups reminds us to take some time, to stop and smell the flowers. I can hear my New England friends and Family saying, “David, it’s December. Whatever flowers are left will soon be under six feet of snow.” Let’s not get hung up on details. Make a cup of something hot and share it with friends and family. Play with your children. If you don’t have any children, play anyway. The world won’t come crashing down if you put aside the routine for a little while.
Take some time to feel blessed because, you know, you are. No matter what you have going on in your life there is something positive you can focus on, even something as simple as waking up to another day, taking another breath, having another series of consecutive moments to do something new, create, connect, work, play, find or build your purpose in life. There are a lot of good things going on. Don’t let the harsher ones get all your attention, even if they are trying to demand it like a spoiled child.
December is a month of giving. Modern western society seems to have confused that with a month of buying. Yes, been there, done that, worn the dodgy Christmas sweater, and that’s all fine too. But, no matter what your beliefs, there’s more to the season of peace, goodwill and light returning to the world than maxing out your credit card and making sure the scales balance when exchanging gifts. Sure, who doesn’t like shiny, new things?
What the people around you really want (no matter what they write on their list) is your time, your attention and your love. We all want to connect on an emotional level, even if it goes unarticulated or it seems contrary to some people’s behaviour. You can’t change anyone else, but you can be their opportunity to change themselves.
This season, be the healer. Like an innocent child, bring some more joy and positivity into the world for any reason, for no reason, just because it feels good. Maybe it will be contagious.